Red Flags You should Watch Out FOr In A Relationship
HE DOESN'T VALUE GIVING BACK TO YOU 
Community service may not be a priority for all. However, service can be a means of tapping into your shared power as a couple to impact positive change in yourselves and the community at large.
Service projects can be a great means of opening up the dialogue on shared interests and values as well as spending time together doing good for others. Furthermore, the ability to put others first is a metaphor for one’s relationship.
Can your partner later prioritize your needs over his? Can you do the same for him? If you are looking to have children, will he be able to make sacrifices for the family at large? We don’t lose anything by sharing more love with a greater community outside of ourselves. The ability to emphasize giving back to others when things get busy can be the sign of a great relationship.
THEY WANT TO CHANGE YOU
Listen, if they don’t like you the way you are, there’s the door. This relationship red flag is a tricky one because many people do not notice their significant other changing them.
THEY NEVER APOLOGIZE
You may not think this is a big deal, but this is a major relationship red flag. The inability to apologize essentially shows they do not take any responsibility and ownership for their actions.
HE DOESN'T TRUST YOU
When a person has difficulty being honest with himself or herself, it may be hard for them to be honest with you. Some of this behavior may not be calculated and malicious but simply a learned way or habit of coping. However, being out-and-out lied to is a no-brainer.
A person who holds himself or herself unaccountable for their actions lacks integrity and lacks respect for their partner. You may feel, and rightly so, that there are a lot of “missing pieces,” so much that you don’t know or that is purposely hidden from you.
This may be the most painful red flag that you don’t want in your life. If you see this occurring in your relationship, either you prepared your luggage or your fix it. The person who really loves you will never feel bad about what you feel embarrassed of. Perhaps, it is your feet, your weight, your family or your past.
We all have something not perfect with us, and the one who is willing to love you for the person you are will accept you with that weak point.
If you partner does not do as your want, then firstly, you need to try to talk it out. Just be clear in saying how much their behavior impacts you. If your partner realizes that problem, you are lucky. But if they do not, you should know that prepare yourself for dealing it all of your life.
HE WANT TO MICROMANAGE YOUR LIFE
Helping someone evolve is one thing, but if your partner is trying to control every aspect of your life it erodes your self-esteem and autonomy. You need to be trusted to make your own decisions, whether they agree with them or not.
HE PUTS YOU DOWN
This is never, ever okay.
No type of relationship should ever leave you feeling bad about yourself.
The people you surround yourself with should lift you up and make you feel your best.
Anything less is something you just don't need in your life.
He Bring His Ex Crazy Memories Into The Relationship
Some relationships end so badly that we're still sour at an ex or two years down the line—but if your new partner spews vitriol at any and all of their "crazy" former lovers every chance they get, it's a good clue that they are the problem.
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